So I’m at my hairdressers, All For Mary, because I believe having a good haircut is your best accessory, and Bethany does these fun things where the wall space between the mirrors is filled with inspirational, community enhancing, thought provoking, life confronting ideas. Yes I know. Great haircut plus mind provoking confidence boost at the same time!
The latest idea is a Mullet to Mary wall. In other words clients can put up a photo of their wonderful hairstyles from their past till now.
It got me thinking (as it is supposed to I guess) that when we posed for that photo, in times past, we probably thought we looked amazing that day…so why do we laugh now? Big hair, flicks, bowl cuts, pixie cuts, spiky blonde, back combing and that was only a few of my wonderful hair moments! I thought I looked great, so I felt great. And you know what? we all looked fabulous then because we were expressing who we were. While searching for our own style, amongst the cacophony of fashion fads, we uncovered what we liked and what we didn’t. We found our personal aesthetic.
Just a little side story here. A good friend of mine volunteered at a girls’ school in Uganda back in the 1980’s. She was quite curvy back then and felt out of step with the ’80’s Christie Brinkley image of the “ideal” woman. In Uganda, however her voluptuous figure was the “ideal” woman. My friend tells me that the girls at the school would cry out to her “Oh Miss, when I grow up I want to have a bottom just like yours.”
The “ideal” woman can be someone you imagine – not a celebrity or sports star. We uncover our own style by absorbing what we love from the culture around us, shaping it into our own aesthetic then evolving that style as our body and mind adjusts to our life journey.
We may laugh in the future at what we choose to wear today, but if you are comfortable in what you are wearing today, love it and look great, today.